12 things to understand about polyamory
I was asked by a journalist yesterday what one thing I would tell someone who was considering exploring polyamory. In the blur of the interview I'm not entirely sure what I said, so I thought…
Love, off script – blog
Falling In Love
"Oh, Fred, I've been so foolish. I've fallen in love. I'm an ordinary woman. I didn't think such violent things could happen to ordinary people". I can hear those words in my head, as uttered…
Step change
Building consent culture isn't easy. It involves people and communication and boundaries - and there's a lot to navigate, especially when you consider that the prevailing cultural paradigm is one of entitlement. Entitlement culture is…
It is what it is
"So they're your main partner, then?" "Which is the most important relationship?" "If you really love them you put them first" These are words I frequently hear from my monogamous friends when we're talking about my non-monogamous relationships. The…
Asking for it
If you're looking for love, or sex, or romance, or connection, how do you go about it? That initial connection can be elusive. We can't all just stand around on steam train platforms like Celia…
3 little words
"I love you" - the 3 little words you're supposed to long to hear, or wait to say... words that can change lives forever... words imbued with such importance and meaning that poets, musicians, academics,…
The choice
I've believed for a long time that the personal is political... with a small p (I'm not talking about party politics, nor even government here.) We all make choices about how to behave. We balance…
The script
The one... Girl meets boy, dates happen, a relationship is formed, it gets serious and exclusive, and a commitment is made, promises, a house is shared, perhaps kids... they live happily ever after, til death…