The fairytale always ends with living happily ever after. It’s beautiful of course, yet it is still an ending… and I don’t want my story to end… our story… It begins when we meet and fall in love, and it doesn’t stop there. What happens when the story finishes? When the happy couple kiss and […]
Tag: feminism
12 things to understand about polyamory
I was asked by a journalist yesterday what one thing I would tell someone who was considering exploring polyamory. In the blur of the interview I’m not entirely sure what I said, so I thought about it a lot afterwards… and started a list. Here it is. 12 things I’d have liked to understand at […]
It is what it is
“So they’re your main partner, then?” “Which is the most important relationship?” “If you really love them you put them first” These are words I frequently hear from my monogamous friends when we’re talking about my non-monogamous relationships. The script tells us that that humans should be part of a couple – one, romantic/sexual relationship/partnership. My friends can accept that […]
3 little words
“I love you” – the 3 little words you’re supposed to long to hear, or wait to say… words that can change lives forever… words imbued with such importance and meaning that poets, musicians, academics, philosophers have been exploring and debating their meaning for centuries… so what would I know? I asked my friends, what […]
The choice
I’ve believed for a long time that the personal is political… with a small p (I’m not talking about party politics, nor even government here.) We all make choices about how to behave. We balance our freedom and our responsibility. Some of us have privileges that give us more choices than others, of course. And […]
The script
The one… Girl meets boy, dates happen, a relationship is formed, it gets serious and exclusive, and a commitment is made, promises, a house is shared, perhaps kids… they live happily ever after, til death do them part. That is the script. It’s everywhere – from the fairytales of childhood to the TV soap, almost […]